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Jargon-busting with Robbin - "End Gaining"

4/2/2019

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I went to Austin, Texas this past weekend for a fantastic workshop on business writing. I’ve been looking forward to it for months, hooked into going the minute the wonderful facilitator promised that in this particular class she’d be giving us “The Rules.” I like rules. Always have, always will. Rules give us a framework – a structure, a box (if you will) from which we can eventually escape. You can’t improvise in music or anything else if you don’t know the rules and how to follow them. I was really excited to get her writing rules, because I knew they'd be incredibly helpful for all the blogging I've been doing lately. 
 
Our class started promptly at 9:00 am. The facilitator outlined the morning and said The Rules would be coming shortly before lunch. Sigh. I came all this way and now I had to wait until mid-morning to get what I wanted? Just at the moment of having that thought, I started laughing. Oh, my, goodness.  What kind of terrible Alexander student was I being right now?
Beautiful wildflowers I saw while walking in Austin, Texas - Bluebonnets and primroses
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I was perfectly demonstrating the trap defined in the Alexander Technique as “end gaining.” When I say this to students, most people ask me if I meant “end gaming,” but no. The words directly from FM Alexander are “End Gaining.” When we end gain, we want to be at the finish line, getting the thing we want or need, right now. Never mind all that stuff that comes along in the process in the middle. 
 
If I really planned to end gain my way through this workshop, I was going to miss an entire early morning of useful and important stuff. I knew I was perfectly capable of mentally hurrying on and trying to second guess what “The Rules” were going to be, rather than paying attention to what was being said in each moment. On the other hand, I’d payed a nice sum to be in this present moment and hear everything that was said, so I might as well take advantage of what was right in front of me.
 
I decided to laugh at myself a little more, then pause, then let go of the need to have those rules right now. And guess what happened? In those moments of listening, of hearing something completely new that preceded the giving of the rules, I had a Revelation. The Capital R Revelation that made the entire workshop worth it for me. If I’d been end gaining instead of listening, I might have missed it. 
 
People end gain for all sorts of reasons. I love it when a brand-new student comes into my studio and asks “How many lessons is this going to take until I get it?” That’s end gaining at its finest. I remember once walking down the hall to make some copies in the teacher’s room. I was so busy imagining myself standing in front of the machine, pushing buttons in my mind, that I completely missed the walk down the hall. That’s end gaining. Ever drive somewhere and realize you had no idea how you got there? That’s end gaining, too. 
 
Educators talk a lot about being “goal focused” vs “process oriented” in the classroom. Being goal focused is teaching for the test, or if you’re a music teacher like me, focusing all your assessment on a concert performance. End gaining is what you’re forced to do because it’s all about the outcome. Being process oriented means that it’s less about the final outcome and more about the journey of getting there. Teaching for the love of learning. Feeling free to go off on tangents because the class finds them interesting. You get to the goal and it takes whatever time it takes to get there.  It’s the antithesis of end gaining, and the deepest kind of learning. The kind where you have revelations.
 
Over the years I’ve learned that inhibition is the best antidote to end gaining. When I pause, allow the present moment back into my attention, let go of the need to be somewhere else doing something else and really pay attention, I can allow myself to slow down and breathe. Learning to enjoy the process makes all of life richer.
6 Comments
Ariana M
4/3/2019 12:39:49 pm

Great insight & reminder of the beauty of being in the moment. That was a tease about the Big R. Are you going to write that?

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Robbin Lynne Marcus
4/5/2019 03:39:03 pm

I realized what kind of writer I am, and it's not an academic one. Lack of joy and fear of being "wrong" in academic writing is what has kept me from publishing anything for all these years. I finally know deep inside that I don't have to be an academic writer - I have something to say that people can relate to without footnotes and annotations.

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Pamela Catey link
4/5/2019 09:56:04 am

Robin, thank you for this writing. In the reading of it, I realized I have been "end gaming" the completion of "Joyful Journey" CD. I've been in overwhelm, stress and angst about all the decisions that need to be made, all the details to handle and complete information overload... joyful the journey has not been the past 2 weeks. Bringing my awareness back to that it CAN be. Thank you!

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Robbin Lynne Marcus
4/5/2019 03:40:01 pm

My pleasure, Pamela! That's a big revelation, indeed. It's so easy to get caught up in the end result - and putting out a CD is a huge goal.

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Betty Hotsfall
4/5/2019 10:28:54 am

Love this, Robbin! In this era of shortened attention spans and sound bites, so much emphasis is placed on "getting to the point." We lose out on the joy of the journey. On the opportunity to reflect and take the time needed to sift through new information and graft it onto what we already know in a meaningful way. Your comments reminded me of when I taught elementary school many years ago before the days of cell phones and video games. I still treasure the wonder I saw in kids' eyes when an activity I'd planned as a deliberate discovery illuminated a truth that they saw for the first time. How wonderful the learning process itself can be! And it's so much more rewarding when we allow our minds and spirits a chance to breathe.

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Robbin Lynne Marcus
4/5/2019 03:41:49 pm

I love this, Betty! I remember that, too. A large part of why I left the classroom was the shift in emphasis to assessment rather than learning for the sake of learning. In music, if there's no joy in learning, why are we there?

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